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How to Increase the Quality of your Decision-Making in Motherhood.

Have you had self-doubt since becoming a mother?
Do you often re-evaluate your decisions because you felt like they were not good enough?
Since giving birth, I realised that I experience more self-doubt than I normally would. I found myself thinking whether I am doing the right things, and making the right decisions for my baby. I am now responsible for the survival and well-being of another human being so I guess the stakes are higher now.
It’s scary to make mistakes, isn’t it?
It’d be nice to have a framework or guideline to follow so that we will make decisions that we are proud of. Hence, less likely to regret those decisions down the track.
Today, I’d like to share with you my secret tool to help me make better quality decisions. I’d like to call this tool “Better Quality Decision-Making Model”.


Better Quality Decision-Making Model

#Step 1: Prioritise your decisions

Life is much easier when I delegate low priority matters to other people. like my mum and husband.  I find it doesn’t deserve too much of my valuable time and mental energy.

#Step 2: Adopt the doctrine of binding precedent principle

As per the common law in the legal system, a binding precedent must be followed by future cases from a lower jurisdiction with similar circumstances.

Using this principle, we can use our previous judgements to help us decide what action to take. I enjoy adopting this principle because I don’t have a lot of time and energy to dwell on repetitive matters.

#Step 3: Test it against your heart

If the decision is new, you can proceed to use the following testing criteria to help you decide. Please assign 2 points if you answer yes, 0 points if you answer no, and 1 point if you answer unsure.
  • Value Alignment – will your decision honour your life values and what is important to you?
  • Gut Feeling – do you feel your decision is the correct decision? What’s your gut feeling about this decision?
  • External Impact – will your decision create negative external impact?
I was able to reduce my daily mental clutter and achieve consistency in my daily life by using this tool. Being consistent allows me to manage self-doubts to a certain degree. This in turn, enable me to have more predictability in life.  
I learned that predictability in early motherhood is almost impossible.

So to close, I’d like to leave you with this quote:

We should make decisions in life with our hearts, not our brains, not only in music but in daily life.

Andre Rieu

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